Marriage Advice, Part 3

The third idea for marriage and relationships is: Communication is more important than you think. Too often, couples fail to communicate on the things that really matter in their relationship. What are those things you ask? EVERYTHING!

To have a successful relationship with your partner you need to be open and honest about everything- after all it is God’s plan for you to be naked and unashamed in front of each other. This means being transparent and not fearing how your partner will react when you share the intimate details of  your lives together.

Here is a list of a few things that you and your spouse need to keep an open line of communication about, talk about, express, or do in terms of communicating with each other:

• Calmly communicating frustrations instead of holding them in or spewing them out without forethought. Try to come to a compromise. Your partner does NOT need to agree with you. This is about you making them happy, not the other way around- this is love after all.
• Constantly say,” please, thank you and I love you.”
• Always work out a dispute before going to bed.
• Share the events of the day with your spouse- they should want to know.
• Let your spouse know if you have physical attraction towards someone you know so they can help keep you accountable and help prevent you from spending time alone (or too much time) with that person.
• Communicate the status of your finances and what you have purchased that day.
• Express to your spouse what pleases you sexually and what arouses you- how will they know if you don’t tell them.
• Let your spouse know if they have said something that hurts your feelings or embarrasses you.

Communication is one of the main factors of a healthy relationship. Couples that do not take time to communicate with each other- even the most mundane aspects of their life- will have their relationship weakened and most likely destroyed. Remember, if you are not willing to listen and communicate with your spouse; there is another man or woman out there who will.